What I feel the word "Mistress" means in the BDSM community

I know I'm a spankee/bottom/brat and in the Spanko community, but I still like to learn about the BDSM community as well, because I have to play with those that are in the BDSM community to fit in to my local community.

So, the topic of my post tonight is about how I see the word "Mistress" and what I feel it means in the community.

The reason for my post about what I feel "Mistress" means is because on the La Fortress site the other day someone posted a blog saying they are in search of a "Mistress" to clean their house and garden for them and that they may be rewarded with spankings because they are a submissive. So, long story short, this person is thinking that a "Mistress" is a submissive. Since I don't see a "Mistress" as a submissive, I posted a comment saying that they may want to change the title of the blog post because a "Mistress" is a Dominate role and not a submissive role. Well, I went to see if they replied or changed the title and they deleted my comment and didn't change the title. Oh well, I was just trying to help them out.

I will share some definations of the word "Mistress" that I have found online, just to see the different meanings and see if they fit into how I see a "Mistress" being a Dominate role and not a submissive role.

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1. A woman who has a continuing sexual relationship with a usually married man who is not her husband and from whom she generally receives material support.

2. A woman in a position of authority, control, or ownership, as the head of a household: "Thirteen years had seen her mistress of Kellynch Hall" (Jane Austen).

3.

a. A woman who owns or keeps an animal: a cat sitting in its mistress's lap.

b. A woman who owns a slave.

4. A woman with ultimate control over something: the mistress of her own mind.

5.

a. A nation or country that has supremacy over others: Great Britain, once the mistress of the seas.

b. Something personified as female that directs or reigns: "my mistress . . . the open road" (Robert Louis Stevenson).

6. A woman who has mastered a skill or branch of learning: a mistress of the culinary art.

7. Mistress Used formerly as a courtesy title when speaking to or of a woman.

8. Chiefly British A woman schoolteacher.

The above came from: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/mistress I also highlighted the defination that I learned of what a "Mistress" means. I also found more definitions on Bing when I searched the word "Mistress" saying the above in red that go along with the way I believe a "Mistress" is in the community. You can see my search results here.

What are your views on what a "Mistress" is in the BDSM community??? Why do you have those views on what a "Mistress" is in the BDSM community???

Colonial Kink Review from November 2012 at La Fortress

First off let me say that my Daddy was able to vend at this event and he did pretty good for a last minute thing and no one knowing a vender was going to be there.

Also there was a play party Saturday night from 8:00pm till 2:00am and I got to play with DaddyBlackheart again, which was a surprise because of the last couple of years, but it was what I needed, because it was an emotional release for me and that is not something that I allow to happen very often and is usually a surprise when it does, unless it is for discipline.

Pictures of my bottom after the scene with DaddyBlackheart:

Here is pictures of my Daddy's vending table, that we had set up:

The schedule for Colonial Kink was:

Saturday Schedule:

Time: 9:00am to 10:00am
Registration  and Coffee and meeting the presenters

Time: 10:00am to 11:30am
Medical Room: 101 Intro to Sharps & Temporary Body Modifications by Dr. Tarr
Cross Room: Transgender101 by slave Tina and Daddy Sam
Dungeon: The 4 R's... Roles, Rules, Relationships, and Responsibilities by Howwwlnwulf

Time: 11:30am to 11:45am
Break/transition

Time: 11:45am to 1:15pm
Medical Room: 201 Sadistic Sharps, Body Modifications and Blood Play by Dr. Tarr
Cross Room: Cell Popping by Howwwlnwulf
Dungeon: Rigging 101 by Sir Nate

Time: 1:15pm to 2:30pm
Bag lunch or quick take out

Time: 2:30pm to 4:00pm
Medical Room: Urethal Sounding by Madame Shadows
Cross Room: Leather Protocol for both subs and Doms by Sir Dale
Dungeon: Cans and long flexable implements by Dr. Tarr

Time: 4:00pm to 4:15pm
Break/transition

Time: 4:15pm to 5:30pm
Interrogation Scene in Dungeon by Sir Dale



Sunday Schedule:

Time: 10:00am to 11:00am
Registration and Coffee

Time: 11:00am to 12:30pm
Medical Room: Porcupine Quills sticky lil things! by Violetfmme
Cross Room: Spanking 101 a smack beyond by Sir Dale
Dungeon: BDSM 101 for all by Howwwlnwulf

Time:12:30pm to 12:45pm
Break/transition

Time: 12:45pm to 2:15pm
Medical Room: Playing with Transgenders by slave Tina and Daddy Sam
Cross Room: Advanced Violet Wand Techniques by Sir Nate
Dungeon: Erotic Touch Sensation Play by Violetfmme

Time: 2:15pm to 2:30pm
Break/transition

Time: 2:30pm to 4:00pm
Resistance Play by Sir Dale in Dungeon


Colonial Kink
A M/s, D/s, BDSM Conference

February 22, 2013 to February 24, 2013
Norfolk, VA

Many Voices
One Community

For More Information Visit: http://www.ColonialKink.com

Educational Classes
Raffle & Door Prizes
Vendors
Presenters
Public Dungeon
Party Rooms

Presenters:

Dr. Bob Rubel
Master Taino
Lady Lynette
MaillerPhong
LadyD
Ms. Diana
Master Griffin and slave goodpet
Master Toni

and more to come...

Playtime from Saturday night 2/11/12

I got to do two scenes last night at LF and one was with a Spanker/Top that I play with almost everytime I go to LF :) I also got to scene with someone new that is a Switch and it was very enjoyable because it was a co-bottom/co-Topping scene where the other bottom and I held hands :)

Here are a couple pictures from this morning after my playtime last night:

I'm excited to finally have marks again after playing :)

Saturday Night 1/14/12

Well, Saturday night Gareth (my boyfriend I am in an open relationship with) decided to surprise me by taking me to the local dungeon for the night and I ended up getting to scene with a few different people even though I didn't plan any scenes ahead of time... 

I did some needle play first and that was done on my bottom, which was a new experience for me, but I enjoyed it ALOT!!! Then my second scene was an impact play scene and that was very ENJOYABLE!!! Then just for fun because someone had a zapper thing, I let them zap my bottom once, it kinda reminded me of the violet wand. Then my last scene of the night was a fire cupping and sensation scene and I got to experience being on fire *smiles*

Here are a few pictures from when we arrived back to my place from playing for the night... 

Then these pictures are from early Sunday morning of my marks from after playing on Saturday night...

Southern Moon is my spanking video store!!!